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Speak with Confidence

Julie cannot be with us tomorrow! Here are her notes from two weeks ago......................

Tips for speaking with confidence!


  • Prepare well – know your subject.  Knowing what you are talking about naturally increases your confidence level.
  • Visualise success – visualise your desired outcome, see the meeting, presentation or date go really well in your mind before it actually happens.  This will create a positive energy and mind-set.  Your body also responds to what we think so thinking positively will generate a positive state – always a bonus before doing something that may test your nerves or make you feel a little anxious!
  • Breathe – this may seem obvious but the first thing we do when we are nervous is to restrict our breathing.  Deep breathing before an event will oxygenate the brain and the emotional nerve centre and will help calm those nerves and steady that racing heartbeat.  Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth for maximum effect.  Do this as often as you can, it really is a fantastic energiser throughout the day as well as a good calming technique.
  • Check your Self-Talk – ensure what you say to yourself is positive and caring!  Take an ‘I can do it’ attitude to your preparations or the meeting itself.  This generates a positive energy and people pick this up when in your company – they too will believe you can do it!
  • Offer something of yourself – people always want to know a little about the person behind the presentation or the sales pitch or the club leader etc. You will always have something interesting to say and you will have done some very interesting things in your life.  Although you may not think so, others will.  To help you here it is a good idea to think about what you are interested in, what you have achieved, what your hobbies are etc. and this will give you some material to share with others.  If you want to bring humour into the situation, tell them (if appropriate) about one of your more embarrassing moments or a funny story.  They are bound to laugh with you and this can lighten the mood and take the pressure off.  A warning though, only do this if you believe it to be appropriate.  If it is, it works a treat.


To other key points to remember or use:


  • Remember people don’t know you so you can (within reason) tell them what you like.  Tell them the bits you are most comfortable with.
  • To enhance the flow of conversation when in a one-to-one, ask the other person what they do outside of work and what interests them?  This can make others feel at ease and takes the pressure off of you to make all the conversation.  Be aware however, that they are likely to ask you the same question back so have our answers ready and be confident about sharing this with them.


Lastly, remember practice makes perfect.  In coaching we often advise people to do the opposite to what they would normally (or logically) do, so my advice here would be to embrace every opportunity you can to meet people and engage in conversation rather than avoid it like the plague.  The more you do it, the more confident you will become at it and this is a great start t becoming a dynamic and engaging communicator.


Go confidently…




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